Causes of Divorce

Do you often question yourself when you are on the verge of making a decision? Have you ever thought why do people get married and finally end it in divorce? We sometimes think that maybe the couple has fallen out of love, which probably is the reason for their separation. But then the question arises, why do people fall out of love? Is it because they ran short of love that they have to end their marriage in divorce? To which the answer is a big "NO".

Then why do you think the couples have resorted to put a full stop to their marriage. I have listed some of the most common causes:

1) Lack of commitment: Marriages do not always happen out of love. However, there are marriages of convenience where couples get married for the need of the moment, which ends once the need is fulfilled. Such marriages often lead to divorce, as the couples are not committed to one another.

2) Financial Problem: A sense of discontentment looms in our heart when our expectations are not met, which pose as the bone of contention between the husband and wife. The husband often feels humiliated for his inability to meet the expectations of their material needs. And thus resulting to divorce.

3) Infidelity: But why do we cheat on our spouse or why does our spouse cheat on us? There could be various reasons for infidelity. It could be because the couples are sexually incompatible. Or either spouse has uncontrollable libido which the other cannot satisfy and results in seeking pleasure from outside.

4) Lack of communication: In any relationship, if there is lack of communication then the relationship comes to a halt and ceases to grow. This is applicable to even husband-wife relationship. Lack of communication might bring about distances between you and your partner. If you do not speak out, your partner will never know what is going inside you. And this might create misunderstandings between you and your spouse.

5) Differences in personality and career goals: Two individuals from different family backgrounds can never be the same. These differences sometimes pose a big obstacle in your relationship. Sometimes your partner might find difficult in adapting to your personality or vice versa. Differences in career could be another reason. Sometimes the husband finds it difficult to accept the idea that his wife is working among male colleagues. A feeling of insecurity prevails in the mind of the husband. But most of times, a husband finds it difficult if his wife has a higher job profile than him.

6) Addiction to alcohol, physical and sexual abuse: if the partner drinks heavily and is addicted to it then he is sure to resort to physical violence and sexual abuse. Such cases are most prevalent among the lower strata of the society.

7) Religious differences: Two different people from different family and religious backgrounds would find difficulty in embracing the religion of the other community. Their faith and belief might be different from the other.

8) Family interference: a lot of interference from either of the families might often result in frequent conflicts between the couples. Both spouses must be mature enough to understand the intensity of their relationship.

10) Sexual impotence: In a married life, if the couple fails to find sexual gratification from each other's company, then infidelity seeps into their relationship leading the spouse to seek sexual pleasure from other source. Sometimes an individual is commitment-phobic and fears of giving commitment to a particular person which compels him to follow the path of infidelity.