When it comes to putting an end to a marriage, it is a very heavy price to pay for both the husband and wife, emotionally, psychologically and financially. During this phase both the individuals go through an emotional transition. When a partner initiates a divorce, it has been seen that the person has already distanced himself/herself from the marriage well in advanced before the announcement that s/he wants a divorce.

As in the case of those who are left behind, they begin to experience it once they are served with the notice or till they are through with the divorce process. In most of the cases, separations are one-sided affair, the couple seldom sits down and discusses about the decision together.

Once the separation is initiated, usually the person, who is left behind, begins to blame his/her spouse for all the problems. They tend to develop a negative image about themselves. However the initiator with the hope of getting relief from the stressful situation does not tend to pay much attention on it however, a feeling of guilt lurks within him/her. And this adds to the feeling of anger, fear, despair and depression of the other person.

This is a stage when the individual is over-sensitive and is always at the peak of their temper. They are always occupied by their own thoughts and feelings leaving no space for any other thoughts which makes them unable to concentrate on their work. They are so lost in their own world that they even go to the extent of neglecting their parenting responsibilities.

The situation is worse when the person who initiates the divorce does not actually want a divorce but circumstances led her to it. Usually this happens in the case of women. In most of the divorce cases, women usually take the first step towards it. But it may be wrong to say that they actually want it, for it happens sometimes that the husband wants a divorce but he does not initiate it, so in order to compel his wife to make the first move he either makes her life a living hell or he does something which forces her to take the extreme step in spite of not wanting it.

Sometimes, because of the anger and emotional pain the person who is left behind often cause conflicts in the proceedings which are of no use. But no matter which role you fit yourself in; you have grasp yourself with the end of your marriage and learn to view yourself as a separate individual, and no longer a husband/wife. And the best way is to get hold of all your emotions and start thinking in a logical way. Its tough though, but not impossible.