Happy Married Life - Things to Avoid

Updated on 28 Jun 2008, Published on 26 Jun 2008

Happy Married Life - Things to Avoid


When two people decide to tie the knot, it means that they have resolved to spend the whole lifetime together. To some, the word, ‘marriage’, may sound pleasing and gratifying but only those, who know the profundity of marriage, realize the complexity it involves. It demands a lot of commitment, understanding, patience, tolerance and love for marriage to keep growing.


When a relationship becomes stagnant or ceases to grow, it is a sign that a happy married life is on the rocks. But these days, either blame it to the modernization of the society or lack of commitment from either of the married couple or for no reasons at all, relationships always comes to an abrupt end. Call it the laws of nature of the modern world, most marriages have failed to survive. And the very common reasons are due to infidelity, insecurity, lack of communication and commitment, family and financial issues, loss of intimacy etc.


Resentment is one major cause of a bad relationship and is responsible for destroying a marriage. And this is one major evil that almost everyone harbors in their heart of hearts. But when we don’t voice it, then it becomes a cause of destruction. It is one of the most devastating things within a happy marriage that can lead to anger, feeling of discontentment and loss of intimacy, even between the most loving couple.


Infidelity is another cause of a strained relationship. Unless you want to end the marriage and seek for divorce, do not cheat on your spouse, for it can cause a great deal of harm to your relationship. It could shake the trusted bond, you share with your spouse. And once mistrust sets in, then the comfort zone that you once shared with your spouse will vanish and insecurity will begin to haul over you and your partner.


The trust that you once build with so much effort, will vanish within seconds which will lead to doubts in each other’s mind. And you would be compelled to perform unhealthy practices like reading your spouse’s emails, checking up on him/her etc.


We are two different individuals and thus, have different ways of expressing our feelings. But sometimes our partners may fail to understand us which might cause communication breakdown and lead to a large number of misunderstandings.


Lack of intimacy between the spouses can also destroy a happy marital life. When I say lack of intimacy, it does not necessarily mean sex. We are so engrossed in our day-to-day activities that we often forget to give time to ourselves and our partners. This could mar the relationship that we share. It hardly takes a minute to express our love and care for the person we love.


Family interference and financial issues are other major causes which can destroy a happy marriage. This issue is also backed by lack of communication. Financial constraints, joblessness, more dependencies, lack of support etc. can cause a relationship to strain.


The one thing that is noticeable among all these points is, lack of communication. So, you need to make a sincere effort to communicate with your spouse. Instead of reacting to your partner, try to respond, instead of struggling, go a step ahead to solve it.


What you need is a little effort on your part, to share and maintain a healthy relationship so, why take the risk!!!

 

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3 Responses to "Happy Married Life - Things to Avoid"

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HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
Tom
THE MAJOR PROBLEM THAT EFFECT OUR FAMILY LIFE IS OUR EGO.NOW A DAYS OUR EGO IS INFLUENCED BY MEDIA AND MODERN LIFE STYLE.IT IS BOOSTING OUR EGO IN SUCH A WAY THAT LIVING ALONE AND OVERCONFIDENCE IS INDIRECTLY FEEDING IN OUR MIND.GIVING OVER IMPORTANCE TO SEX FROM MEDIA ALSO INCREASING INSECURITY. YOUNGSTERS ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR THE BRIGHT SIDE OF THE LIFE THEY LIKE TO ROAM AROUND LIKE TO SPEND MONEY LAVISHLY AND LIKE TO SELECT THEIR PARTNERS WITHOUT KNOWING EACH OTHER.I AM GIVING SOME TIPS FOR BACHELORS AND MARRIED COUPLES WHAT REALLY IS GOING THROUGH YOUR PARTNERS MIND AND HOW TO SELECT A PARTNER
1.STICK ON TO A PARTICULAR PERSON YOU LOVE
2.STAY WITH THEM FOR AT LEAST AN YEAR.NO ONE CAN HIDE THEIR REAL PERSONALITY FOR MORE THAN AN YEAR.
3.DON'T ENGAGE IN SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP BEFORE MARRIAGE.THE SECRET OF SEX IS THAT IT IS THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF LOVE SO IF YOU DO SEX WITH OUT KNOWING MUCH YOU WILL DEFINITELY FEEL EMPTY.TO BE FRANK AFTER SEX BOTH THE PARTNERS ARE EXPRESSING THEIR ULTIMATE FEELING SO FOR A MALE HE IS MUCH DEPENDING ON LUST IF THEIR IS NO LOVE HE LIKES TO CONTINUE TO SEARCH FOR A NEW PARTNER AND FOR A GIRL SHE WILL EXPECT MORE COMMITMENT FROM A BOY SO ULTIMATELY LOVE IS IMPORTANT.
4.IF YOU ARE MARRIED WITH OUT KNOWING YOUR PARTNER THE SAME EMPTY FEELING WILL COME TO YOU BUT IT CAN BE SOLVED BY COMMITMENT AND COMMUNICATION.REALITY IS EVERY MARRIED PERSON WILL FEEL THE SAME EMPTY FEELING ONCE IN A LIFE TIME BUT KNOWING YOUR PARTNER WILL HELP TO OVER COME THAT EMPTINESS
5.FOR MALE AND FEMALE WHO IS GOING THROUGH AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE WILL HAVE A LOT OF EXPECTATION ABOUT THEIR PARTNER BUT FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARITAL LIFE YOU SHOULD NOT EXPECT A MUCH FROM YOUR PARTNER BECAUSE IF YOU HAVE NOT GETTING WHAT YOU ARE EXPECTING YOU WILL FEEL THE EMPTY FEELING IN YOUR MIND
6.DON'T COMPARE YOUR PARTNER WITH OTHERS BECAUSE EACH INDIVIDUAL HAVE THEIR OWN POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE SIDE.
7.MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY AND YOU FAMILY WILL BE HAPPY
8.SPEND SOME TIME TO SHARE YOUR FEELINGS AND HUG EACH OTHER WILL INCREASE INTIMACY
"Marriage is really a sensitive part of life that can change everything in a quick span of time.To maintain such a relationship, its essential to avoid certain things as mentioned in this article.The important thing to avoid problems is to understand life partner properly. This is one of the rocking and successful ways to keep problems away from life.Need to pay proper attention and understand what he/she expects , and should act accordingly to save the precious married life.
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