Happy Married Life - Things to Avoid
When two people decide to tie the knot, it means that they have resolved to spend the whole lifetime together. To some, the word, ‘marriage’, may sound pleasing and gratifying but only those, who know the profundity of marriage, realize the complexity it involves. It demands a lot of commitment, understanding, patience, tolerance and love for marriage to keep growing.
When a relationship becomes stagnant or ceases to grow, it is a sign that a happy married life is on the rocks. But these days, either blame it to the modernization of the society or lack of commitment from either of the married couple or for no reasons at all, relationships always comes to an abrupt end. Call it the laws of nature of the modern world, most marriages have failed to survive. And the very common reasons are due to infidelity, insecurity, lack of communication and commitment, family and financial issues, loss of intimacy etc.
Resentment is one major cause of a bad relationship and is responsible for destroying a marriage. And this is one major evil that almost everyone harbors in their heart of hearts. But when we don’t voice it, then it becomes a cause of destruction. It is one of the most devastating things within a happy marriage that can lead to anger, feeling of discontentment and loss of intimacy, even between the most loving couple.
Infidelity is another cause of a strained relationship. Unless you want to end the marriage and seek for divorce, do not cheat on your spouse, for it can cause a great deal of harm to your relationship. It could shake the trusted bond, you share with your spouse. And once mistrust sets in, then the comfort zone that you once shared with your spouse will vanish and insecurity will begin to haul over you and your partner.
The trust that you once build with so much effort, will vanish within seconds which will lead to doubts in each other’s mind. And you would be compelled to perform unhealthy practices like reading your spouse’s emails, checking up on him/her etc.
We are two different individuals and thus, have different ways of expressing our feelings. But sometimes our partners may fail to understand us which might cause communication breakdown and lead to a large number of misunderstandings.
Lack of intimacy between the spouses can also destroy a happy marital life. When I say lack of intimacy, it does not necessarily mean sex. We are so engrossed in our day-to-day activities that we often forget to give time to ourselves and our partners. This could mar the relationship that we share. It hardly takes a minute to express our love and care for the person we love.
Family interference and financial issues are other major causes which can destroy a happy marriage. This issue is also backed by lack of communication. Financial constraints, joblessness, more dependencies, lack of support etc. can cause a relationship to strain.
The one thing that is noticeable among all these points is, lack of communication. So, you need to make a sincere effort to communicate with your spouse. Instead of reacting to your partner, try to respond, instead of struggling, go a step ahead to solve it.
What you need is a little effort on your part, to share and maintain a healthy relationship so, why take the risk!!!