Have you been lately suspecting your husband’s loyalty? Have you noticed a sudden change in your husband’s behavior and attitude which leaves you in a dilemma? The more you try to figure out what is going on in the mind of your husband the more confused you are.

When you try to confront it with him, he always comes up with a pre-planned excuse and gets away easily. But still you have a feeling lurking within yourself that possibly your husband is seeing someone. Whenever you try to raise the issue he dismisses it. Sometimes, your instinct tells you something about your husband which you don’t want to believe.

If you have been going through such experiences then probably your husband is having an affair with one of his colleague and is cheating on you. But then again without appropriate evidence you can’t confront your husband. So if you want to find out whether your husband is dating someone else or not then read on to confirm your suspicions:

1) Pry on the daily activities of your husband but do not let him feel that you are meddling with his things for he might get cautious and try to defend himself by expressing his anger on you.

2) Do you notice a changing pattern in your husbands working hour? Has he been spending more time in his office than usual on the pretext of working late? When you make a call, he either does not take the call or ends the call briefly.

3) When he comes home late, does he claim to have had dinner with his colleague? Do you get a trail of someone else’s perfume from his shirt?

4) Keep a track of his work records. Check out the days he usually work late and visit him once a while in his office when he is working late. If you know his colleagues call them with an excuse that you cannot get through his cell and ask them to help you get him to the phone.

5) Is there a sudden increase in the number of outdoor trips in his schedule?

6) When he is on an out of town conference, make sure that you get each and every detail of what he did there. And make a note of it, if he had been making up then he would probably make a mistake while narrating about his trip again.

7) Do you notice a change in the behavior and appearance of your husband? Does he spends more time than usual in front of the mirror and is more concerned about improving his looks and appearance? If so then he could probably be dating one of his colleagues.

8) Does he often hang up a call briefly whenever you walk in? Does he get late night calls very often which he do not attend when you are around?

9) When it comes to money matters, is he spending more than he usually do, for which he do not give you a clear cut explanation and gets furious whenever you try to confront it with him.

If your answer to these set of questions is ‘yes’ then probably your husband is cheating on you and has an affair on his job. But do not jump to the conclusion right away. Keep a close check on your husband’s activity. And what you can do is visit him in his office and surprise him with one of his favorite home-cooked meal. You will know from his reaction whether he is cheating or not.

During the lunch hour hang out with your friends in the parking lot of his office to keep an eye on him. Watch out whether he is accompanied by a woman or not when he is going for lunch. If he is in the company of a woman then follow him and check out where they are heading to a restaurant or a motel.

Well now that you know the obvious, what is your next plan going to be? Do you want to save the relationship or file a divorce? If you want to save your marriage then it is high time that you consult a counselor or else find a good divorce lawyer.