Get out…!!! She yelled and that was the end of their relationship. Both Anne and Joe wanted to save their relationship but with all those things that had been going on lately, it was becoming quite heavy and tough for both of them to get along. In spite of being an ideal couple, both of them had to separate.

This is the usual scenario we very often get to see in the so-called ‘modern world’. We often see our relationship at the forefront and instead of trying to hold it back; we probably let it go leading to Divorce.

Now the question is ‘Is this what you really want?’ and the answer would be a definite ‘No’. Then instead of wasting our effort in trying to put a dead end to the liaison why don’t we put in a little extra effort to save it. Every relationship goes through all the hurdles of life and only those survive, who continue to cling on it with a positive attitude. And such couples emerge to love each other more than they ever were and share a more intimate relationship.

An amalgamation of a little understanding, patience, trust, honesty, forgiveness, open mindedness, speaking out etc. with the right attitude can do wonders to your relationship. Here are some points listed to save your relationship:

1) Understanding: this is the base of every relationship. Both the partners should try and understand the root cause of the problem and together work on it, to solve it. If you don’t understand then question her/him, but do not lead to an argument.

2) Listening: active listening is another pivot of a healthy relationship. Listen to what your partner has to say and then speak out and clarify things to sort out the misunderstanding.

3) Spend time together: this is one major cause of misunderstanding that leads to most of the familial disputes. Life has become very hectic and in trying to cope up with it we don’t have enough time to spend with our dear ones. But try to take some time out of your busy schedule to spend some quality time with your partner. Go for a quite holiday leaving your kids behind, only just the two of you.

4) Forgiveness: learn to forgive each other. Nobody is perfect and every one of us tends to make mistakes. We learn from our mistakes and experiences and emerge wiser than before.

5) Share your feelings: do not held up your feelings inside yourself. Your partner will never know what is going on within yourself if you do not speak out. Also let your partner know that you care for him/her.

6) Be honest: be truthful about your feelings towards your partner and try to win over her trust on you. For every relationship builds on the foundation of trust.

7) You don’t always have to be right: do not try to get into an argument thinking that you are right and you have to prove it. Things can turn out pretty bad. So even if you are right simply calm down and once the other person calms down explain it to him and make him understand.

8) Learn to accept the person as he/she is. Think of him to be the best person you have ever come across in your life. If you start imposing things on him with an aim to change him, then it is very likely that your relationship is on the rock.

9) Give some time to yourself. This might help you see the flaws that are in your relationship and you might have a different perspective to resolve the issue.

10) Be positive: always have a strong positive attitude. This would help you in keeping off the negative thoughts from your mind. Think about those happy times.

Breaking a relationship is hard, for both the partners so, it is always better to work on trying to save the relationship. Do not lose heart, for your relationship hasn’t failed until you have tried everything to save it.