One of the most common forms of abuse that you would find prevalent almost in every situation is verbal abuse. Be it in a family setting or a workplace or an institution, you would find it everywhere.

What do you think is the main reason behind such behavior especially when all of us are matured enough to understand what is right or wrong, what should be done and what not?

One reason could be because the abuser himself has a low self-esteem, which he fears, if his employees came to know of it, he might be look down. Another reason could be his desire to dominate his employees. Some are of the opinion that to get what he wants out of his employee, yelling and shouting on them does the trick.

We get to see these kinds of situations in a workplace where the boss is usually a dominating man and the employee is a low self esteem woman. Men find hard to tolerate women’s effort to equal them in every field. They feel that women are trying to humiliate them. They are still bound by the orthodox belief that men are superior to women and thus they need to be repressed and kept under control. The abuser usually blames his fault on his victim, overpowers him/her, and, he feels good about himself.

Some of the most common forms of verbal abuse that takes place in the work place are swearing, insults, patronizing language, threatening, withholding important information, etc. There are other forms of abuses like criticizing you or your work in front of your colleagues, repeatedly finding faults in whatever you do, constant comparison between you and your colleagues and belittling you in front of them, holding you up irrelevantly while allowing all your colleagues to leave etc.

If you have been going through such things at your work place, then report to your HR or someone in a higher rank, about your supervisor’s behavior towards you. Though the HR might be able to do very little about it but if there has been any other such incidents or complaints filed against your supervisor then on the company’s interest s/he will surely take some productive steps.

Instead of doing so, if you continue to bear the burden for reasons best known to you, then at the end of the day you will be the only loser. It might begin to take claims on your health as well as social and psychological being. You might suffer from stress, anxiety, tensions, depression, headache etc. which may affect your work performance, degrade your morale and lower your self esteem.

And so the best way to deal with it is be very composed and let your supervisor/ manager now that you will not take this type of behavior but very politely. Stay calm and if he continues to bully you or abuse you, then leave the room and report it to the HR. it will be no use in trying to reason out with your manager so dot indulge with him in a verbal argument.

Always remember that employees have the right to be treated with dignity and respect for you are gifting the organization your talents. If you come across an abusive manager instead of doubting your efficiency, believe in yourself, hold on to your self esteem and take action. Some people tolerate it either for fear of losing the job or they are being paid handsomely. But, then why to put your self esteem and morale at risk just for the sake of a few green papers!!!