Despite the fact that you are living with your husband and children by your side, you are depressed, lonely, restless, confused and listless for no specific reasons at all. If this is what you have been going through lately, then probably you are into a sexless marriage. Though, it is said that marriages are based on love and not sex, but sex becomes important to a certain extent when it comes to expressing your love, on which marriages are based, for your partner.

There are other means through which you can express your love but till the time you find other means, life would be like rotting in hell, for without sharing compassion, passion, love, it is very difficult to stick into the marriage unless there is a mutual understanding between the two of you. It is important to keep in mind that most sexless marriages often end up in separation.

Being in such a monotonous relationship, is a matter of serious concern, however it is not irreparable. The first and foremost that is required on your part is to find out why your marriage is going through all this. It is very important to get to the root of the problem and know the exact reasons for leading an inactive sexual life.

With the passage of time marriages sometimes take a different course, which may sometimes increase the gap between the two of you ultimately leading to loss of intimacy. Usually, when children become a part of the family, couples often put down their roots to a particular pattern of life, where your whole life revolves around the household chores and your children’s needs. And at the end of the day you are left exhausted, with no time for sex.

Here are some steps for wives especially to revive the passions you once shared with your husband:

1) Be a little aggressive. You may feel at times accountable for the diminished regularity of sex. And the reason could be that you did not have enough time to spend with your husband as you are all caught up responding to the needs of the family and children. This might have probably led your husband to lose interest, as you had shoved off your husband’s advances. Surprise him with the change you are making in yourself. Your spouse would love it if you take the role of an aggressor and start pursuing him. This is a sure shot method to fix a sexless marriage.

2) Let him know that you still find him attractive. And that you still desire him the way you use to desire him when you first met. It happens more than often that men sometimes hesitate and find it awkward to develop an intimate relationship with their wives just for the reason that their appearance have changed over time.

3) Men usually withhold their feelings regarding any issue, which might build up apprehensions and fretfulness within him. He might be so stressed out that it may depressingly influence his libido. So the best way out is to talk with your husband about things in general as well as things that might result in causing extreme stress.

4) Last but not least, equal contribution from both the partners. Open communication is one sure way of bringing about a resolution to ease the tension. Let your husband know what you expect of him and you too pay an attentive ear to your husband’s desire and needs.

But before bringing up the issue with your husband, it is important for you to understand the issue and how to bring about it, for therein lies the future of your marriage. Convince your husband that you are not going to fret about anything and also confront with him about your past mistakes. And also ask him if he still holds any grudges against you.