One of the major issues that is on the rise and is prevalent among couples is sexless relationship. When we talk of a sexless marriage, it doesn’t mean that the marriage is totally devoid of sex. It simply means that the couples have sex for less than 10 times a year. According to a research, around 40 million people in the United States are into sexless marriage.

And this is one major problem which poses a threat to the stability of a happy married life. In most cases, such relationships often end up in a divorce resulting into frustration and loneliness of an individual. But before we jump into the causes, let us first have a clear idea about what sexless marriage is, when we are referring to it.

Not only the older couples, but even the younger couples go through such experiences. However, it definitely doesn’t mean zero sex but infrequent sex. It is very common but this is not something which has to occur among the couples. It is usually in the hands of the couple to make sure that it does not happen. And very often, it is the men who lose interest in sex and most commonly women complain about a sexless marriage.

Now, what do you think is the major cause of it? One thing is for sure that no one gets married to end up in a sexless marriage. Though sex is not the only thing that keeps a marriage alive yet it is one of the most important constituents of a happy and successful marriage that strengthens the bonding between two individuals.

There are a various reasons which cause a relationship devoid of physical pleasures but, generally, it is the result of a relationship which is likely to turn sour. It is very difficult to live in such a dull relationship and is an issue of major concern. So if you want to save your marriage then you need to get to the root of the cause.

Here are some of the very common causes:

1) One major cause could be the hectic life you have. In today’s scenario, to keep up with the pace of the materialistic world, both the husband and his wife work to death, and this hardly leaves them with any time to enjoy each others’ company. It is more than common among couples, that despite the fact, that they are married, they still live like mere room mates who live together for convenience sake.

2) To second it is the misunderstanding, which, if given a chance, is always ready to sneak into any relationship. If one of the couple is working and the other stays at home then what usually happens is that both the couples start to find faults among each other. The one who is at home would say that the other partner is out there enjoying life, meeting people, etc etc… and the other might counter argue why and for whom is he working so hard. And this type of scenario may often lead to a bitter relationship.

3) And then there is the issue of taking the other for granted. Such situations tend to arise when the couples are not satisfied with their sex life. And this could be because of boredom, emotional scar, laziness, bad experiences etc. both the husband and wife must understand that sex is the basic need of human beings, and the quest needs to be fulfilled.

4) Then there is lack of sexual attraction. There are certain cases where either the husband or the wife is turned on when they fantasizes other people but lose interest with each other. This could be because either you don’t appeal to your partner because of your physical appearance or lately you have not been working out which has led you to gain excess weight. What you need is to learn to groom and carry yourself to reignite the spark.

5) Lack of communication is another major concern. Though you might still be in love with your spouse but the excitement has gone away. Because of the usual boring routine in their bedroom, their excitement has gone off the track.

Trying to survive in a sexless marriage is truly very tough. Over time you might develop the feeling of rejection so intensely that you might feel that divorce is the ultimate solution. But wait, before jumping into any conclusion sit back and think what has gone so wrong in your relationship that has led to a sexless marriage. You can rekindle your passion; all that you need to do is to find out what has dwindled your happy married life.

Go back to the past, and think about those times when both of you enjoyed each other’s intimacy and companionship. Sit back and think what has changed, why it has changed and what can you to do amend the changes that have occurred. Once you figure out the things that have gone wrong, you can easily rekindle it.