Once, in a small family gathering, my mother was complaining to my father about my brother and was nagging him continuously. My father sat there, deep in thought, listening quietly to my mother, when all of a sudden his thoughts spoke out, “why do women complain so much?” Then and there all of us burst into a laugh which irritated my mother and she left grumbling “like father, like daughter”.
But the question struck my mind with such an intensity that I sat thinking- when it comes to complaining, why is it always associated with us alone? Its not that only we complain, men also complain but we never hear anyone asking why men complain. Or is it simply because we are more sensitive than men and seek for emotional dependance.
The moment we hear the word “woman”, the first thing that strikes our mind is someone accompanied with the gift of the gab. One who likes to brag and nag all the time, who is more interested in talking about herself, her lifestyle, her children, and her family, than being a good listener. One who can keep on talking on anything right from the lace of a petticoat to how often the woman, who lives in the next village, visits her parental home!!! (One who likes to complain about the silliest thing)
We have tagged a lot of things with a woman’s identity. But have we ever thought why women do so? Is it the law of nature for women to complain always?
The question to which most of the men would answer, is ‘yes’.
These sensitive creatures have been misunderstood on this pretext. It is not a woman actually who is always complaining, but circumstances has led her to behave like that. In a family, it is ‘She’ who keeps the family intact. And so each and every member of the family is kept under her scrutiny. She is always answerable to whatever good or bad happens at home. But why? Is she to be blamed for everything? Is that all fair?
When a man is being questioned, he feels that his wife is complaining, as men do not really like the idea of women interfering in their professional lives.
Being the weaker sex, they often feel insecure about themselves, as men prefer to spend most of the time outside. Which men sometimes fail to understand and this compels women to start nagging and bickering constantly. As a result of which, men develop extramarital affairs for they feel that their wives at their homes are trying to control them.
So, if we sit down and ponder upon the question above, the answer is, because men find it difficult to adjust to the desires and personality of women. There are flaws in both the sexes, however, men must try to understand what women want and compromise with them for all this, while women have been compromising with men.
But, exceptions are always there.