Why men won’t commit?

Sigh…!!! Why men won’t commit ever? Does this question very often plague you when it comes to wanting a commitment from your man? So long you hang out with your guy without any commitment, he will never have a problem strolling around the park with you, going out for dinner, walking down to the clubs etc. but once you turn on to him with questions about the future, you will find him distancing away from you.

This often leaves us in a dilemma with the question, why don’t they want to make a commitment? You begin to realize that your man is a commitment-phobic and that he is not ready to make a commitment. The more you try to go closer to him you will find him distancing himself away. You are left behind with the thought that perhaps he never will be ready to make a commitment and decides to move on.

But do you think men do not want to make commitment? Do you think they do not want to have a home, a wife and children and live a peaceful life? Yes, even they want to make a commitment as much as women want to. Then what is holding them back from doing so? Let us try to analyze together to get in the heart of men and find out why.

A man who has been brought up in a disturbed family setting, who has seen his parents in a not-so-good relationship, who has seen his parents break up, usually turns out to be commitment-phobic. He fears from the very thought of committing himself into a relationship, probably because his perception of commitment is what he saw in his childhood.

Another reason might be, he might have suffered heartbreak or a divorce, which has not been healed yet and so probably, he fears of hurting himself again. Maybe he does not want to go through all the pains that had passed over him not long ago.

They value their independence and never want to give it up. They love to explore life to its fullest. So, often men feel that making a commitment would mean to give up all their pursuits. Sometimes, they do not want to take the responsibility of a family, rather they are not ready for it.

Another striking reason is that they no longer need to get married, to have a wife. When they are available with so many options, to get the benefits of a wife, without getting married or making any commitment, then why bother to take the trouble. Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free? They want to enjoy the benefits of relationship but without any commitment.

Sometimes, they feel that they have not met the perfect woman or the love of their life and so they are not ready for it. At times, they think that a year or so is not enough to get into any liaison.

So all the ladies out there, who are being traumatized by such relationship, the best way out is to find out whether he will ever change his stance or not. If you feel that he needs some time, then give him ample time to make his own decision. Do not pressurize him or push him. Let him take enough time till he is ready. But if you feel that he is always backing out, then it’s high time that you move on instead of clinging on to him.